It's less than 48 hours since we finally arrived home and we're are in another adjustment period. Milana is clinging to me for dear life. (Read - I can't go to the bathroom without her or a crisis.)
This too shall pass (quoting my dear Joanne here) but today was pretty rough. I am again "air" for Milana and if I turned my back or even moved slightly away from her, she freaked. Hoping tomorrow will show signs of improvement.
While Milana napped, Dahlia and I did get out today for a girls lunch (her fav thing to do with Mommy) and we grocery shopped together. It's odd how much she has grown up in the past two weeks. A few weeks ago she was my baby and now - she's like almost a teenager. Well, I'm pushing it a bit but she does seem to be so mature. Of course, only until she does something....umm....shall we say.....un-comely, which quickly brings me back to reality. This getting a sister thing has been really tough on her and she runs the gamut between being a real trooper and really being angry and hurt with all the attention she is losing. Nothing unusual there - it's just hard to see your "baby" hurting and I've lost it a few times with her behavior.
But we will muttle through. Meanwhile - I've just given myself a gentle reminder of how far we have already come by the pictures above.
Hi, I'm Wanda. I am a happy woman, wife to Danny for...oh....lots a years and finally Mom to THE most adorable little girl from Hunan, China - Dahlia. And now we have been blessed again with another daughter, Milana, from Zhejiang, China. (The 2 best things I've ever done!)
We live in the Montreal area. After a loooonnngg wait for Dahlia's little sister Milana (pronounced - Mee-lana, like banana), we finally brought her home in August 2009. Dahlia came to us in Nov 2004 (at 20 months of age)and a year later we began the application for another baby - at the time the waiting period was around 8 months. Almost 4 years later (say what!?!)we, at last, brought Milana home.
This began as the story of our journey to bring Milana home and life with her big sister, Dahlia. It now continues as we live as a family of four!
God.
My (growing) family.
Hangin' out with my girlies.
My wonderful friends (you know who you are!).
To laugh (out loud and a lot!).
Music.
Painting. Hugs.
Long chats with my buds.
My garden.
To read (ha...when I can!).
Sunshine.
Spring, Spring and more Spring.
Building things.
Cooking.
Decorating.
Parties (ahem).
The internet.
Life.
Movies. A.I.
Dancing with the stars.
So you think you can dance.
Travel. Umm..did I say laughing my head off.
Oh Gee...everything actually!!
8 comments:
Welcome Home Wanda!! So glad to have you back! :)
Keep us updated......hope things start to get a bit easier for you!
Hugs, Jill
Welcome home! I hope every day gets a little better! Hang in there!
If you need anything, just shout!!
Keep smilin!
Peter, who was terrific during our trip in China, had a burst of anger two days before we left. I took him aside and asked him if he thought we loved Caroline more than him and he burst into tears (as did I). I then asked him who he loved more, Daddy or me. He could not answer that, of course, but it brought home the idea that we have room in our hearts for more love and that what he was feeling was normal and not "bad". I then told him about some of his friends who are going through the same thing with new siblings and how his Daddy (the oldest of 6) went through the same thing 5 times! It helped him to know that his feelings were normal and that others were going through the same thing.
Oh gosh, but the sibling adjustment can be tough. And while it does get so much better, there are moments even now where L wishes things were back to "the way they were"; I know she adores her brother and doesn't truly mean it, but its heartbreaking and frustrating(to hear) just the same! My heart goes out to you both.......your lunch dates sound wonderful the like the ideal solution to ease this transition!
As for little Miss M, gosh, that must take its toll also; I hope each day brings improvement!
Wanda, the second photo of just the girls.....I was astonoshed by how much they truly do look alike! Wow....pretty girls!
Hugs!! Hang in there!
Lisa
Hi Wanda,
I am glad that are home and starting to settle in and really happy that you and Dahlia got some special time together:)
I can only imagine how difficult this transition period is on Milana and on you. Try to take one day at a time.....Hang in there!!
Lisa
Hi Wanda!
So glad you made it home safe!!! There is always an adjustment period for everything. You are a fantastic Mom and you will get through this! Take care and your pictures are wonderful!! You are blessed!!
Hugs,
Fonnetta
Welcome home. The Clinging-Time. Who can ever forget it? Sending strength and patience your way.......
This period will only last a few months :-)) and then you will all find your new normal. I hope and hope that you all sleeping at least?
Dahlia has so much to deal with right now. New sibling who won't let go of HER mother, school starting, etc, etc. It's not easy (on anyone it sounds like). I'll leave you with my usual advice....Hang-in there. Things will change...eventually :-))
Dawn
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